Rules Of Engagement: Submission

When having a debate or conversation, the most sought after word is "Yes"

It's a simple word, but its result is more complex.

When having an argument/debate and you feel that you are losing ground within your position.... somehow.. Some way, get that person to say the word "Yes". (This won't be easy due to the fact, that emotions are high and to get someone to agree with you during a rant is almost impossible). To do so, you must ask a question that has an emotional hard stop... A "Yes" or "No". There is no grey area within this rule.

"Do you Love me? is an emotional hard stop because it forces the person to respond with only .."Yes" or "No". You must reinforce the question by not allowing a lethargic response, like "yeah". The response must be "Yes". By convincing or mandating a response of only "Yes" you will instantly deescalate the argument... Mitigating the unbound emotions,

recalibrating the conversation.. You'll notice, right after the word is said, there will be a change in tone and posture. They will inadvertently release a gasp of anger. And once this happens you are now able to control/shift the direction of the conversation.

Some are reluctant to say the word "Yes" because we understand its true meaning. It's not just another word of agreeance... rather, we recognize it as a word of commitment. At surface level, your commitment can seem small. But, because of your agreeance, your commitment runs deep and you must uphold the anchored promise . "Yes" is aligned with an oath of loyalty, trust, and action.

- The emotional hard stop: The question must be simple, but impactful.. a question that mandates a simple response but forces the person to understand the weight of their answer. This question should not allow that person to think outside of the parameters of the question.

- The action of agreeing: Agreeing, is a reminder that there is common ground between you and I.. And that the conversation/argument should not exceed beyond this.

- Submission: Saying "Yes" is an act of submission. At surface level, it is just an act of agreeance. However, by saying "yes" you are submitting to that person's way of thinking or being. To reinforce the feeling of submission... do not allow the person to answer you with a dull response... By convincing someone to respond to you with the word "Yes", it places them in a sub-servant position and places you in a position of dominance.

*** Most, only use the word "Yes" in a response to someone they respect, like a parent or elder, or if your in a position of service i.e retail/customer service.

Written by - A Troubled Youth.

Rules Of Engagement R.O.E are a set of internal rules that define the degree and/or manner in which the use of strategic thought and action(s) are applied. Rules Of Engagement must be consistent, while accounting for a variety of potential uncertainties. Each rule is singular and can stand on its own to achieve the result in which you desire.. or rules can be assembled and utilized simultaneously. Rules of Engagement does not dictate how a result is to be achieved, but will guide what measures are unacceptable.